If you are here for a make up review , or some style advice , then this is not for you , this is different , this is real , this is important .
Like really important .
When i first started this i thought that someday i would talk about this issue just because i know how important and weighty it is
, but i really didn’t expect it to be this early, it is not a pleasant subject to talk about but yet i feel like i have to, because most people go through things like this without even talking about it ,not during and not even after it is done , today i decided to talk about mental/emotional abuse .
I am pretty sure that most of you reading have never heard of it , not because it’s new or it does not exist but because , usually people don’t talk about it because it is a phase that you somehow want to delete and vanish from your existence , so when it is over -if you are lucky enough-you just act like it never happened .The thing is , everyone seems to be so familiar to physical abuse and it is a great thing to see that it is mediatized and people are aware of how dangerous and important it is , i just wish that it was the same for mental abuse as well because in a way i feel like it is much more dangerous and serious than physical abuse , because it does not leave marks or bruises for people to see .
It is like an invisible disease that only the one suffering from it can feel , but still when you are in a relationship where you are mentally and emotionally abused , you never realize it , you live in a trap that everyone seems to see clearly but that you never see or even understand , it is only when you are out of that bubble that you realize that you were trapped .
If you are in a relationship where you are constantly being jugged over things that make you who you are , or even the smallest things that make you question yourself and slowly and gradually scratch your personality , or even if you are with someone that makes you feel that you are not enough , what you do is not enough , your entire existence is not enough ,stop it.
If you start to feel bad about yourself and your self esteem gets lower while you are in that relationship ,if the person is way too possessive , criticizes all of your friends than your family than everything that you like or has any sentimental value to you, to make you focus and care and give all your energy on them and only them , stop it .
If you feel that your personality is being washed away while you are in their company , if you are told that you are “too sensitive” whenever you try to make them understand that something is wrong with how things are going , stop it .
If You didn’t stop it in the previous phases i guess you would be now on the phase where things get a little crazy and tend to get out of control , by now you would have realized that it is not healthy and that at a certain point it should stop but they won’t let you , so the’ll threaten you , by anything and for anything they will force you to do things , it might even turn to a physical abuse and i promise you , you wouldn’t even expect it , it is then you will truly feel their heavy embrace , and the moment you do , please , please get help , tell your family or friends , look for help , don’t be ashamed of the situation because it will only get worse and you don’t want that to happen . And most importantly don’t blame yourself saying i was stupid because you were not , you were good but you met someone that was not mentally stable .
If you are reading this and you feel like you have done these things to someone ,please ,please seek help because you are sic and if you get help you will get back to normal . But if you enjoy doing this and you wouldn’t change because everything is easier to you like this , please remember that what goes around comes back around and that the gates of hell are opened and calling for you .
If you are on the other side , make sure you tell your friends or family and keep in mind that you are not dealing with a normal person so be ready to deal with the unexpected , if they threaten you with their lives or yours , know that they are testing your limits and even thought you will be scared try not to loose it just let someone else know about the situation for your safety and your own well being.
Know that no one deserves to live in these circumstances, no matter who you are , you deserve to be respected , to be loved in the right way but most importantly be respected , to be supported to do whatever you decide to do , to dream to achieve , to grow and to discover yourself , no one has the right to abuse you in any possible way and learn that No is a complete sentence .
It all begins and ends in your mind, what you give power to, has power over you.
it’s okay 🙂
Ps: if you have been through this or want to ask about anything , please leave it on the comment section , i would love to know , or contact me on Instagram or my Facebook page (links are on the top bar )